Superficially Deep, Realistically Superficial
Dear Google+ user who said "a real man will love you for what's inside, and not care about appearance',
Are you fucking serious with this shit? I don't care if they are "real" or "men," we ALL care about appearance. Have you EVER seen someone in a social setting, and decided to introduce yourself because you were attracted to their intelligence or sense of humor? How would you even get to that point without first finding them attractive enough to talk to?
I'm sorry, but I'm going to admit it. I'm superficial. Wait, no, I'm not sorry. I'm superficial, you're superficial, I'm just saying it and you're not. So, shame on you!
If you haven't had the great joy of being on dating sites because you're desperate (insert my name here), then you haven't had the pleasure of the douche bag guys looking for sex...oh, wait, looking for a "long-term relationship" (yeah, right!)... with no picture posted. Out of pure curiosity and disgust that women may actually go for this, I asked a few for pics. Then I'm accused of being superficial. God damn right, I am! If you're ass is butt fucking ugly, I'm NOT going to bother to meet you for a drink, or dinner, or a movie, or anywhere!
So, what you say is that genuine people don't care about what's on the outside, but what's on the inside. I roll my eyes, gag myself, and call bullshit!
That's an ugly baby!
But we don't tell people they have an ugly baby! Instead, we say things like, "What a cute outfit!" Or, "Oh, that bow in her hair is sooo cute!" See, most times, it's what we don't say that defines our relationships with the people around us.
Sometimes, friendships can be created unknowingly through this method of not saying things. When you meet someone new, and you make polite nice-to-meet-you small talk, you may start to realize this person is very boring, and not quite with you in the wit category. But, you remain polite and pretend you're interested in what they have to say.
You continue this behavior each time you see this person, and pretty soon you have each other's cell numbers, you're facebook friends, you're in each other's google+ circles...and now you have a friend you don't even like because of what you didn't say.
Maybe we should say more of what we really think.
But we don't tell people they have an ugly baby! Instead, we say things like, "What a cute outfit!" Or, "Oh, that bow in her hair is sooo cute!" See, most times, it's what we don't say that defines our relationships with the people around us.
Sometimes, friendships can be created unknowingly through this method of not saying things. When you meet someone new, and you make polite nice-to-meet-you small talk, you may start to realize this person is very boring, and not quite with you in the wit category. But, you remain polite and pretend you're interested in what they have to say.
You continue this behavior each time you see this person, and pretty soon you have each other's cell numbers, you're facebook friends, you're in each other's google+ circles...and now you have a friend you don't even like because of what you didn't say.
Maybe we should say more of what we really think.
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